Bronzed Gods For 1

Today like every morning I started my day with a run around the Rose Bowl in Pasadena.  It was 8am and the heat was already a scorching 95 degrees, but what can you expect when you live in the dessert.  As I got out of my car, I noticed that there were many more men running half naked than usual.  Now, I am not one to complain about spending time with half naked, very young, and very hot men, but common.  So I looked from afar, as I adjusted my IPod to just the right tunes and started on my run.  About ten minuets or so the heat started to get to me.  The sun was intense and beat down upon my face, like the heat from the flames under the backside of a skillet.

Ok should I continue or will a faint from heat exhaustion?  As I stood still for a moment and contemplated my dilemma, a group of about 10 or so young bronze Gods ran past me shirtless and glistening from the sweat that poured down their chest from the intense summer sun.  Ok I might be slightly older, but how can they run so fucking effortlessly in this heat while I feel like I could keel over at any moment.  That is when I thought how unfair, men can run around half naked, when us women have to be covered up or we will be arrested or even worse kill our backs from our breast bobbing every which way.  I am telling you, if there is a God, than he mostly is a man.  Tomorrow the gym, nice and air conditioned.


Viva España /Spain Wins World Cup 1-0

Today Spain won the World Cup! Since my husband is from Madrid I am automatically a fan.  I am so happy for all Spaniards worldwide.

I spent the morning watching the game into the afternoon as the token American amongst 20 or so Spaniards and Argentinians.  I grew up in Chicago, a big sports city, but I think this group of friends could give Chi-Town people a run for their money when it comes to being the ultimate fans.

If you would like to check out the latest news please click on the link below.  Viva España

Experience Chan–Master Xu Yun

1. Experience Chan! It’s not mysterious.
As I see it, it boils down to cause and effect.
Outside the mind there is no Dharma
So how can anybody speak of a heaven beyond?

2. Experience Chan! It’s not a field of learning.
Learning adds things that can be researched and discussed.
The feel of impressions can’t be communicated.
Enlightenment is the only medium of transmission.

3. Experience Chan! It’s not a lot of questions.
Too many questions is the Chan disease.
The best way is just to observe the noise of the world.
The answer to your questions?
Ask your own heart.

4. Experience Chan! It’s not the teachings of disciples.
Such speakers are guests from outside the gate.
The Chan which you are hankering to speak about
Only talks about turtles turning into fish.

5. Experience Chan! It can’t be described.
When you describe it you miss the point.
When you discover that your proofs are without substance
You’ll realize that words are nothing but dust.

6. Experience Chan! It’s experiencing your own nature!
Going with the flow everywhere and always.
When you don’t fake it and waste time trying to rub and polish it,
Your Original Self will always shine through brighter than bright.

7. Experience Chan! It’s like harvesting treasures.
But donate them to others.
You won’t need them.
Suddenly everything will appear before you,
Altogether complete and altogether done.

8. Experience Chan! Become a follower who when accepted
Learns how to give up his life and his death.
Grasping this carefully he comes to see clearly.
And then he laughs till he topples the Cold Mountain ascetics.

9. Experience Chan! It’ll require great skepticism;
But great skepticism blocks those detours on the road.
Jump off the lofty peaks of mystery.
Turn your heaven and earth inside out.

10. Experience Chan! Ignore that superstitious nonsense
That makes some claim that they’ve attained Chan.
Foolish beliefs are those of the not-yet-awakened.
And they’re the ones who most need the experience of Chan!

11. Experience Chan! There’s neither distance nor intimacy.
Observation is like a family treasure.
Whether with eyes, ears, body, nose, or tongue –
It’s hard to say which is the most amazing to use.

12. Experience Chan! There’s no class distinction.
The one who bows and the one who is bowed to are a Buddha unit.
The yoke and its lash are tied to each other.
Isn’t this our first principle… the one we should most observe?

-Master Xu Yun

Love-Erich Fromm

Infantile love follows the principle: “I love because I am loved.”
Mature love follows the principle: “I am loved because I love.”
Immature love says: “I love you because I need you.”
Mature love says: “I need you because I love you.”

– Erich Fromm

Happy Anniversary

Life is simply delicious! When I think about everything I have in my life I realize just how blessed I am. But tomorrow, July 8th is my 5th year anniversary. It feels like only yesterday I met and married my husband. He really is the best part of my life. I am more in love with him today then I was when we first married…if that is even possible.

I am one of the lucky ones. I married my best friend who I am head over heals mad about. I swear that every time I look at him my heart does little flip-flops and no it is not gas…this is the real thing.

I think why it works for us is the respect we have for one another. We completely respect each others individuality, dreams, passions and unique qualities that make us special. We both are very much responsible adults, but at the same time have not forgotten how to harness the child within and allow that inner child to come out and play. I would have to say though; I am more of the child in this relationship. I sometimes feel bad for my husband as I can embarrass him, but he is a good sport about it. We work hard and play hard and we never forget to play together.

I think why we work is we are going in the same direction. We look into the future together, not in separate directions. If I could give any advice on love it would be…find a mate that you respect, admire, see flaws but find those flaws unique qualities that make that person special, understand the way your mate ticks and know how to keep him or her charged, go in the same direction even if you have different dreams. When you fight do not raise your voice, call names, never threaten or put the person you love down, but listen and step back before you respond. In the morning always say I love you, have a great day and a kiss for the start of a new day. At night, a simple kiss, sweet dreams, a hug and I love you before you go to bed. Last but not least, ever forget to laugh; laughter is the key to success.

Happy Anniversary to the Love of my Life and my Best Friend

Love-Oscar Hammerstein

A bell is no bell ’til you ring it,
A song is no song ’til you sing it,
And love in your heart
Wasn’t put there to stay –
Love isn’t love
‘Til you give it away.
~Oscar Hammerstein, Sound of Music

4th of July

This past holiday weekend, me, my husband and about 20 of our friends spent the weekend in Malibu California. A very dear friend has an amazing home on a cliff overlooking the ocean.

When we arrived we drove up the mountainside to the gates of her home. The home was a beautiful Spanish style home with a modern twist. An artist herself, you felt as if you were walking through the doors of a masterpiece by Pablo Picasso. This home was a stunning array of color, a fusion of art, and an energy force to be reckoned with. From ceiling to floor the details were dramatic. White walls that showcased her favorite artist and friends, multi-colored tiles and geometric shapes graced the fire-places, counter-tops and swimming pool.

We were welcomed with open arms at the door of a master. She is as fabulous as the architecture that surrounds her. Born in China, raised in California, made in a world all of her fabulous self, Sue Wong, is grace, elegance, heart and soul. Standing only about 5’3 with a personality of a giant, this fasionista has more fierce energy than most people double in size.

The weekend pursued with delouse food, incredible conversation and laughter, wrapped up in love. Sue opened her home and her heart to her friends. We enjoyed barbecuing outside, sipping on margaritas and wine and enjoying sweets and even sweeter conversation from sunup to sundown, under the stars until the night came to a close.

Today is a new day, but it is filled with the sweet memories of great friends coming together in the pursuit if happiness.